Waiting on Valentine’s Day

Whether today is Valentine’s Day, Singles Awareness Day, or just an average Tuesday for you, you probably have an opinion about this day of romantic celebration. I can’t say that I’ve always looked forward to Valentine’s Day. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not a bitter single just chomping at the bit to get “hitched.” Actually, I’m a little tired of those people who are chomping at that proverbial “bit.”

I was talking with my friend, Brienna, the other day about a view that many more conservative homeschoolers have about singleness. They like to refer to it as “a time of waiting.” Usually this implies that you are waiting for your future spouse. As my friend Bethany told me today, “If singleness is a time of waiting, then you’re always waiting. Waiting to get married, waiting to have your first kid, waiting for kids to graduate, waiting for your retirement.” You get the idea; this waiting game turns into a vicious cycle of always looking ahead and never living the moment for all it’s worth.

So if you’re single this Valentine’s Day, remember that today is part of God’s plan for your life. He’s working in you right now. You don’t have to wait for the man or woman of your dreams to come along in order to start your life. God is a day-by-day God. He wants you now. He’s not waiting for you to find anyone because if you’ve already fallen for him, then you don’t need to wait any longer.

P.S. Just to throw in a little humor, see how Jostie Flicks tries to speed up the waiting game by trying to Catch a Man.


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5 Responses to Waiting on Valentine’s Day

  1. KAR says:

    Yeah. I think NWC has a few too many people chomping at your proverbial bit. I’m going to be careful here because I don’t want to sound like a bitter single (and I’m not), but I think a lot of relationships that happen here are silly and rushed into. I know that some are good, but I think a lot of silliness happens here. You’re (and I mean a general “you”) going to waste your life sitting around waiting, and you’ll waste some of it if you aren’t selective enough. As for me, I am content consider Gene Kelly my Valentine. ‘S Wonderful. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TzbfmsvlyRs

  2. I agree that Northwestern rushes people into things. Even though I didn’t spend this Valentine’s Day alone, last year I will admit that I was one of those “silly” people desperate to rush into any relationship I could get my hands on. When I first started reading this post, I expected you to defend the homeschooled rep for generally not dating, but as I read, I admired that you didn’t. Not just because you were homeschooled, but whoever has the patience to wait for that perfect relationship should be proud of themselves for waiting on God’s timing. Early last year I didn’t, but later when I actually started to trust Him and His timing, I found that he blessed me with the perfect Valentine this year! 🙂

  3. meaganlinn says:

    This topic is so universal, whether you’re home-schooled or not. But don’t worry, not all Northwestern students are chomping at the bit, although too many of the students seem to represent the whole. What you said really fits in with what Kempton Turner has been talking about in chapel this week. God is our Shepherd and He gives us everything that we need. Not want. My mom always told me to concentrate on my own character and my own heart, and that the guy would show up when God sees that you’re ready. I agree with Kristin, sitting around waiting while waste your time and your life. We’d be better off actually staying productive and accomplishing things, regardless of who’s by our side. Great thoughts 🙂

  4. Rachelk says:

    I appreciate hearing everyone’s thoughts! I truly believe that “waiting” (as in setting aside your priorities and opportunities) is not in anyone’s best interest. I see the single life as a huge opportunity to do things that I wouldn’t be able to otherwise. Many of the things that God has opened up for me at this point in my life would not have happened if I was “waiting” around. This is a great time in your life. No matter what relationship status you have, do not let yourself settle for “waiting” in any form. Live your life.

  5. begazelka says:

    Good post, Zoey. As my college youth pastor in Arkansas said, “If you’re miserable when you’re single, you’ll be miserable when you’re married.” 😉 Much love to you after Valentines Day!

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