What’s wrong with my comfort zone?

As a homeschooler, I often have trouble stepping out of my comfort zone. Growing up with my siblings, parents, and best friends (who were also homeschooled) around me was very comfortable. Throughout high school, I was convinced that I was an extroverted people-person. Then, I arrived at college and discovered my true colors.

Don’t get me wrong, I absolutely love people. The hard part for me is stepping out of my comfort zone and meeting new people. Orientation week of my first semester was not quite a nightmare, but I was pretty homesick. I missed my family and my friends from back home: the people who I didn’t have to try to befriend because they already understood me.

I quickly learned that stepping out of my comfort zone and introducing myself to my fellow students was hard. Not just because it was often awkward. Frankly, trying to make new friends and get to know a person on the spot often fails miserably. On the bright side, going through those many awkward encounters yields a few wonderful friendships.

So, whether you’re an introverted homeschooler, or just an introvert trying to feel at home at college, get out there and meet people. You’ll fail miserably, but you’ll also probably meet your future best friend. Meet one new person this week. If it fails, it’s okay. But you will never know until you try.

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4 Responses to What’s wrong with my comfort zone?

  1. meaganlinn says:

    This post really resonates with me. I went to a small Christian school, and I am like 85% introverted…seriously! I don’t think I had any close friends until my junior year in college, because I always stayed in my room, away from the student body. Now that I’m in my last semester of college, I wish that I would have branched out sooner. You’ll be so thankful that you stepped out of your comfort zone this early on in college. There are many friends to be made 🙂

  2. begazelka says:

    I think it’s good to be an introvert or an extrovert or whatever you are. Or to walk the line between the two. We don’t get homesick anymore, but I think it’s still good to go home once in a while. When school and life gets chaotic/hectic, I like to visit home sometimes. Then I feel like I get grounded again and am reminded of my true (or original?) identity–who I am apart from “all this.” 🙂

  3. elizabethz23 says:

    Thanks for the encouragement Meagan! It’s nice to know that I’m not the only one who deals with this.

  4. KAR says:

    This is good advice. I don’t think introversion is necessarily synonomous with shyness. Some people just need alone time. Large amounts of it. Whatever the case, I’m sure that I have missed out on knowing some cool people becuase I basically refuse to introduce myself to anyone. It is awkward (for me, anyway) to make that first contact with a person I don’t know, but I know it’s a good skill to have for life in general and for the impending business relationships I will have to form. Sigh… What I have found, though, is the few real friendships that you do gain are worth a moment’s discomfort. Thanks for the post!

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